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10 October 2008 @ 04:39 pm
I don't post about politics. But this isn't about politics.  
Best Beloved and I are getting married on October 31st. We got our marriage licenses today.

Which - okay, if you're straight, or you're not in a relationship, it may not be entirely clear what that means. Best Beloved and I have been together for fifteen years, since I was 19. We've spent our entire adult lives together. We've lived together, shared our finances, bought a house. Had a child. But we could never get married.

Now we can; right now, gay couples in California can get married just like other people. Just like we're real people. Today, at the courthouse, there were six couples in the marriage license line - four male/female couples, a male/male couple (with their kid), and me and Best Beloved (with the earthling, who handled the eternal wait with more dignity and patience than anyone else in line, let me just note). We all got treated the same, although I suspect that only four of us in that line understood what a privilege that was.

For now, we are all allowed to stand in that line - to wait forever, to fill out forms, to listen to the clerk swear at her malfunctioning computer, to pay the County $70.00, to get the magical license that will let us be "Party A" and "Party B" in a marriage forever. For now, we can do that. Until November 4th. The election that I hope will change this country for the better may change things in California for the worse, largely because opposition to marriage equality is much better funded than support for marriage equality.

I know most of you don't have any extra money right now. But if you feel like giving us a gift to celebrate this once-in-a-lifetime event - well, you could donate something to Equality for All. Five bucks is the minimum. Fifteen would be a dollar for every year that Best Beloved and I have been together but unable to get married. Or, if you have some extra time, you could sign up to phone bank (from your home - you don't have to live in California). Fifteen calls would, again, be one for every year Best Beloved and I have been together.

The best gift you could possibly give us is the hope that other couples like us will be able to stand in that line in two years, in five years, in ten.

Or, hey, I will just take congratulations: Best Beloved and I are getting married!
 
 
 
wolfshark on October 10th, 2008 11:49 pm (UTC)
Congratulations!
tried to eat the safe banana: Yay!thefourthvine on October 11th, 2008 05:02 am (UTC)
Thank you!
can't find my drink or pants: kelly gleegeeklite on October 10th, 2008 11:50 pm (UTC)
Yay! Go you! Woohooo! *donates to "No on Prop 8" in honour of you guys and all decent people in California*
tried to eat the safe banana: Yay!thefourthvine on October 11th, 2008 05:03 am (UTC)
Thank you so much!
nestra on October 10th, 2008 11:52 pm (UTC)
Congratulations!
tried to eat the safe banana: Yay!thefourthvine on October 11th, 2008 05:03 am (UTC)
Thank you!
Still Waiting For My Jetpack: jeff dean morgan (sup bitchez)azewewish on October 10th, 2008 11:52 pm (UTC)
Congrats!!! May you both continue to have many more years of (legally sanctioned by the state) togetherness. :)
tried to eat the safe banana: Yay!thefourthvine on October 11th, 2008 05:03 am (UTC)
Thank you! (And we hope we do, too.)
oddmonster: Happy camper.oddmonster on October 10th, 2008 11:53 pm (UTC)
CONGRATULATIONS!

I wish you and Best Beloved all the happiness in the universes of your choosing, space to grow, and a love everlasting. Enjoy this day and many, many more!
tried to eat the safe banana: Yay!thefourthvine on October 11th, 2008 05:04 am (UTC)
Thank you so much!
JoAnnjoannindiw on October 10th, 2008 11:54 pm (UTC)
Congrats! (I did donate earlier to Marriage Equality USA)
tried to eat the safe banana: Yay!thefourthvine on October 11th, 2008 05:04 am (UTC)
Thank you! (And yay!)
Carla: Dancing Betty (livia)beledibabe on October 10th, 2008 11:55 pm (UTC)
How wonderful!!! Congrats to you both! (Is the earthling going to be the ring boy?)
tried to eat the safe banana: Yay!thefourthvine on October 11th, 2008 05:05 am (UTC)
Thank you! (Of course not! We're getting married on Halloween. The earthling is going to be the wedding NINJA. Every wedding needs a ninja!)
(no subject) - beledibabe on October 11th, 2008 07:19 pm (UTC) (Expand)
rocawrocaw on October 10th, 2008 11:55 pm (UTC)
Congratulations!!

*donated in your honor*

And I will definitely be voting NO on 8 next month!!
tried to eat the safe banana: Yay!thefourthvine on October 11th, 2008 05:05 am (UTC)
Thank you, and thank you again, and thank you times three!
orwhoeveriamorwhoeveriam on October 10th, 2008 11:55 pm (UTC)
Congratulations!

...That's awesome that you're getting married on Halloween.
tried to eat the safe banana: Yay!thefourthvine on October 11th, 2008 05:06 am (UTC)
Thank you! And, yes, we're rather pleased about the date. We can never, ever remember our other anniversary. Now we have a fighting chance.
The sanest lunatic you've ever met: misc: peacefulsdwolfpup on October 10th, 2008 11:55 pm (UTC)
Congratulations! I will be pressuring the people I know in California to vote No on Prop 8. I pray it doesn't pass.
tried to eat the safe banana: Yay!thefourthvine on October 11th, 2008 05:07 am (UTC)
Thank you! And, yes, I'm hoping and hoping it doesn't pass. Any influence you want to exert on voters down here would be MOST helpful.
.: ari you've got gold (slodwick)hackthis on October 10th, 2008 11:55 pm (UTC)
CONGRATULATIONS!!! *tosses confetti*

(Ari and I are very happy for you).
tried to eat the safe banana: Yay!thefourthvine on October 11th, 2008 05:09 am (UTC)
Thank you! *brushes confetti from hair*

And are you kidding? Ari totally thinks marriage is fucking bullshit, but if I want the state of California to suck my cock, he's fine with it, whatever.
(no subject) - hackthis on October 11th, 2008 06:23 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Myriad: Freeze ray stop the world - yledmyriad69 on October 10th, 2008 11:56 pm (UTC)
Many thousands of congratulations to you and Best Beloved on your upcoming wedding. And belated congrats on the arrival of the earthling as well!
tried to eat the safe banana: Yay!thefourthvine on October 11th, 2008 05:09 am (UTC)
Thank you! And thank you times two!
I'm not fluent in your dialect of crazy: cake ... for you!dine on October 10th, 2008 11:59 pm (UTC)
many many congratulations to both you and BB. I look forward to wedding tales (and photos) of your v. v. Happy Day

I wish it could be more, but I made a small donation in honour of you, as well as my other friends who were finally able to marry this year. may that right continue to be available long after 4 November!

*hugs*

tried to eat the safe banana: Yay!thefourthvine on October 11th, 2008 05:11 am (UTC)
Thank you! And there will be no photos, unless my sister gets out her camera. (My sister also was the one who brought her camera to labor and delivery when we were having the earthling. I was like, why? Why would you bring a CAMERA? And now, of course, I am incredibly grateful to have the pictures.)

And thank you again, for donating. Any amount counts!

*crosses fingers about Prop 8*
the pirate queen of norway: millie-glee!!ashkitty on October 10th, 2008 11:59 pm (UTC)
Oh, brilliant! Congratulations!! I'm so, so happy for you. :)
tried to eat the safe banana: Yay!thefourthvine on October 11th, 2008 05:11 am (UTC)
Thank you!
Lucy: squeefscereta on October 11th, 2008 12:01 am (UTC)
Huzzah!
tried to eat the safe banana: earthling squeethefourthvine on October 11th, 2008 05:11 am (UTC)
Thank you! (And I'll show you my baby squee icon if you'll show me yours!)
(no subject) - cereta on October 11th, 2008 02:20 pm (UTC) (Expand)